It definitely seemed as if the best gynecologist in Delhi could be found at Sitaram Bhartia Institute of Science and Research

How to take care of your pregnant wife

We always fuss around a pregnant woman and her needs, however do we give enough thought to what goes on in her husband’s mind? It is his first time too! Frankly, I never gave this a thought when I was pregnant but when my friend mentioned it with concern in his voice; I suddenly realized the gravity of the situation.

Atul my best buddy and a family friend moved to Delhi around 10 months back. It was a great opportunity and he didn’t want to miss it. We were all super thrilled about the big promotion and the great opportunity that he got. Things were sailing smooth, when one day Atul’s wife Priya called up informing that they were pregnant.

How to take care of your pregnant wife

 

As Delhi was a new city, it was decided that she would deliver back in Pune where there are enough people to support and help. Knowing and trusting doctors also was an important reason for this decision. We were eagerly awaiting the due date and preparations were underway to help the new mom and the baby at her parent’s home, however trouble started when in the seventh month, Priya was advised against any kind of travel. There was also a fear that she might be asked to take complete bedrest.

The sudden change in the situation meant looking for a hospital in Delhi for child-birthing. It also meant ensuring Priya has enough help till pregnancy. Suddenly everything was overwhelming! While I was regularly talking to Priya and knew her state of mind, it was a revelation when Atul called up late one night with obvious concern in his voice. His words “I understand Priya is scared and so am I, but I genuinely want to help and I don’t know what to do? I am at work most of the day and am worried sick about Priya”

I decided to help him in any way I could and the first important task was to help him zero in on a hospital that we all can trust. I did a quick search online and enquired around for some suggestions. The one name that kept popping up was Sitaram Bhartia Institute of Science and Research. Their facilities and track record was amazing with 88% of first birth, low risk moms having a normal delivery in 2016!

They had a lot of helpful content and programs like Antenatal classes, Infant care workshop etc. for parents to be. Looking around, I found their doctors profiles and experience and was quiet impressed with it. It definitely seemed as if the best gynecologist in Delhi could be found here. By this time; I could sense all the fear melting away! I quickly messaged Atul with the details. He called back in 15 minutes, thanking me for relieving him of all his fears.

A dad to be can find great advice on how to support his wife better through various blog posts on Sitaram Bhartia Institute of Science and Research

As a dad to be, he found great advice on how to support his wife better through their various blog posts! Atul and his family were over the moon and I was happy that I could be of some help to my best buddy! Their experience so far has been amazing with quality care, supportive staff and highly qualified doctors. The personal care and attention to their queries has made the couple well-prepared for the new arrival.

 

Few important things that the doctors mentioned about caring for a pregnant wife were

  • Go with her for all the check-up’s and ultra-sound. You will know first-hand about the condition and care to be taken.
  • Pregnancy leads to a lot of hormonal changes; hence your wife might feel lethargic or be restless. Understand her and be supportive of her.
  • Before meeting the doctor for the appointment talk about your queries or doubts with your wife, ask her to tell you her fears or worries. This will help both be on the same page and act as a mental support to your wife.
  • Attend antenatal classes with your wife to understand the changes she undergoes. These classes will also help you be better prepared on baby’s arrival.
  • Help your wife exercise. Go for walks with her. If she is feeling lethargic, motivate her to walk for atleast 30 minutes a day.
  • If you are travelling for work or have long hours away from home, make it a point to call her regularly. Message to check if she is eating small meals in between. These things will help her build a routine and not skip meals.
  • Talk to experienced doctors to understand how you can make small lifestyle changes to try for normal deliveries.

I found this information extremely helpful, what about you? How did your husband help you while you were pregnant? Were you in a situation where pregnancy overwhelmed you? Do share in comments below.

Life comes a full circle for Rohit as he helps his village

When Life comes a Full Circle

Rohit was a first generation expat from his family. He went to USA for pursuing his Masters degree in Mechanical Engineering and then settled there. Rohit had everything that a typical well-settled expat Indian is expected to have – a green card, a home, a family and a job profile that anybody would be envious about – he was the VP of the New Product division.

Rohit was also the only child of his parents, who now lived in Pune. He religiously had his family vacations, so that his children could form a bond with their grandparents from both the sides. But such visits however well-planned only meant visits to his parents and his wife’s parents and that was the ‘family in India’ that their children knew about.

During one such India visit, Rohit’s father asked him “Do you remember our village home in Ratnagiri?” Rohit was a bit lost at the question initially, but then he recollected a few faint memories of an imposing wada with a huge orchard at the back. His far-away look was noted by his mother and she simply said, “You might not remember much as after your high school you were usually busy with studies and later you went to USA”. Rohit’s son Anish was listening to the conversation. He quickly checked up Ratnagiri on Google and announced “Dad this looks like a cool place, let’s go there while we are in India!”

And just like that in a discussion over dinner, the Dongre family planned their Ratnagiri visit.

“Okay let’s look up some hotels” said, Rohit. His father simply said, “I will be staying at the Wada, you guys can book yourself a hotel close by”. “Does someone even live there dad?” now Rohit was genuinely surprised!

Yup! My brothers and a few of your cousins do live there. We go there every year!

This got Rohit and his family, even more excited. There were apprehensions about meeting someone for the first time, there was also the fear of how Rohit’s children will take in the rural life! As far as Rohit remembered the wada was a pretty old place.

But there was hardly any time to think! Things moved so quickly that they were to leave in the next two days!

The first thing that hit Rohit when he visited his native place was the lush greenery, smiling faces and the quiet recognition that everyone showed. Rohit and his family were greeted with a lot of warmth and Rohit reconnected with a lot of his cousins, that he remembered playing with as a kid! In the next half an hour, all his new found cousins and their children were connected online, thanks to Facebook! Anish exclaimed “Let’s do an FB live! I want my US friends to know, I have so many cousins that we could make a baseball team!”

Knowing your roots and meeting so many who can be called family was an uplifting feeling. The fear about how his family would take in a village life, melted away!

After they freshened up, Rohit along with a cousin Raghav, decided to go around the village. It was surprising that the people seemed to recognize him; there was respect in their eyes, which didn’t seem to make sense. “I never came to the village, after middle school, yet why is there this warmth?” questioned Rohit to Raghav.

Raghav smiled and steered him towards a tall building in the square “This is the government school of our village, it was started after the efforts of our grandfather! Our grandfather was a qualified doctor, educated in Pune, yet he came back and worked all his life for the upliftment of our village! He was the first doctor in this whole region and was instrumental in starting many initiatives for the betterment of health, sanitation and education in our village and neighboring areas.”

The words got etched somewhere deep in Rohit. He didn’t know much about his grandfather’s work. They came once a year for around 10 days to the village. By then, grandfather had retired and Rohit was too small to understand what his social service or ‘work’ mean! He became curious to know more about the great man!

Over the next two days, Rohit and Anish got to know a lot about the great figure. They were amazed and humbled with the dedication and efforts put in! “Apart from sharing a surname, I wonder what else do I have common with this great man,” wondered Anish and Rohit just replied “Exactly my thoughts son!”

Next day, they were going to their village deity and watching at the lush paddy fields and huge mango orchards that lined both sides of the road. “I want to be a farmer! This is so beautiful” quipped Anish. “With most youngsters not wanting to be farmers or going to cities, I don’t know how long these green surroundings would survive” said a worried Raghav. This caught Rohit by surprise!

“Why was nobody interested in farming?”

“Everyone thinks there isn’t much dignity in being a farmer, plus with so many climatic changes, farming just doesn’t seem feasible, they don’t get labor to work and you never know if there will be any returns on investment! It is a tough life.”

The answer put Rohit in deep thought! We were losing the primary life sustaining business known to man! There was something wrong here! By the time they were returning back from the temple, Rohit had his light-bulb moment! He quickly made a few phone calls and started typing away feverishly on the laptop.

For the next two days, Rohit looked like a man possessed! He was making presentations, watching videos, creating models.

“Would you be able to introduce me to the govt. school management by any chance?” asked Rohit to Raghav, just as he was sitting down for dinner. “Yes sure! I am an honorary member there, will talk and set something up by tomorrow.” But what is this about, asked a curious Raghav?

Well, I am a mechanical engineer and my company is into making machines for farming. I connected with them about the problems here and they are interested in sharing knowledge with the school students as part of their social responsibility activity. We have a branch in Mumbai and we are thinking of having yearly projects in schools that will ignite their interest in science. This will have good cash prizes that students can use for higher education.

The conversation lit up Raghav’s and Anish’s eyes! After dinner, the three of them huddled together over the presentations and there were excited exchange of ideas late into the light.

A short story about life coming a full circle and finding purpose

In the next two days, some more phone calls later, the presentation was arranged. Rohit showcased how his team would be interested in introducing basics of mechanical learning and creating farming related tools as a vocational subject in the school. This would prepare the students for the year end competition. The competition would revolve around creating simple and cost-effective machines that would help farmers.

The vocational classes would happen via video calls and once a month, one of his team members from Mumbai, would come to access the situation and understand the on ground realities.

By the end of the presentations, Rohit could sense that the teachers and the management alike were interested in trying this new way of learning. Rohit did a small introduction with students, to understand their perspective and the result was amazing! As he showed them how a cost effective rice-cutting instrument could be made by the students, he saw the excitement in their curious eyes.

“This is just the beginning”, Rohit mused to himself. He had just ignited a hundred little flames!

The Cradle

Curious of all the commotion in the neighboring room, a heavily pregnant Pooja went in to have a look

She saw numerous beautiful wooden toys, silverware and an exquisite handcrafted cradle!

That’s the cradle of Amey’s grandfather! Amey himself and now Amey’s child will play in this cradle, her MIL beamed.

Pooja was stunned looking at all the treasures and listening to the memories her MIL was rattling away looking at various things in the room.

Pooja had been skeptical about delivering the baby in the ancestral home. It was in a small town with good hospitals around, but she was vying for the luxury hospital in the city.

Pooja could see a baby Amey in the cradle, as her MIL shared beautiful memories.

In that moment she realized, the warmth of memories and love of people would be the best luxury she could offer her baby.

Linking up with Mayuri and Tina for #FridayFotoFiction

Nostalgia #writebravely

It was a typical busy, dull day at office

The familiar ping on the phone made me look at the screen,

An FB friend request from a long lost friend blinked on the screen

A familiar rush of happiness surged through me as I saw the name

Nostalgia consumed me and the countless happy memories left me with a smile on my face

One accept and a messenger wave later, we were on a trip down the memory lane remembering the good old school days.

After the chat I feverishly started searching for other school friends and adding them

Just then Facebook suggested his name! My first crush and a dear friend

We lost touch after school, and now there on facebook his name popped!

I kept the phone aside and was trying to focus on work,

Did he ever know I liked him? Would he accept my friend request? Would it be awkward?

While my brain and heart debated on such endless questions

Another ping on the phone drew me towards it

He had sent a friend request with a message

“Hi! It’s been so long, remember the last time we met…”

We shared a bit of past, a bit of present, a bit of what was unsaid, had a hearty laugh and a promise to catch up soon.

And just like that an old friendship was renewed.

prose poetry about nostalgia

A bit of tech a bit of heart

I know this isn’t the theme for today, but I wanted to write on this theme and I have a series running on Friday, so couldn’t post then, hence posting now.

Write Tribe

The pianist #FridayFotoFiction


Indian Bloggers

“Khwaab ho tum ya…” wafted through the air and reached his ears, as he sat down to read his morning newspaper. He stopped peering over the newspaper with a magnifying glass and started humming the music as his fingers involuntarily played an imaginary piano in the air. Eyes closed, a smile lingering on his lips, he was a serene picture to behold except for a small tear that rolled down the corner of his eye. Rustom missed his piano and a life as a musician in Hindi film industry.

In the new era, musicians were replaced by electronic music and computers. Regaled into the past, Rustom continued playing at events but once arthritis made his fingers painful and stiff, he had to let go. Today all that was left was albums of pictures from his heydeys and such mornings when an old classic transported Rustom to the bygone era.

Linking up this post to Tina and Mayuri for #FridayFotoFiction

 I want to take my Alexa Rank to the next level with My Friend Alexa

Tina Basu

Earth’s Deficit – #Tiniature

We recently crossed the Earth Overshoot Day, meaning that humans are pushing the planet to its ecological limit at an accelerated pace. We are consuming more of Earth’s resources than it can produce. My #Tiniature about this and what will happen if we continue to act rogue.

Have you given this a thought? Maybe other species will be required to take up the responsibility and find some solutions for it.

Man always prided himself in being the most intelligent of them all, but what if the God’s have realized their mistake and decided to evolve other species as well. If ‘MAN’ continues to act in the way he is now, maybe other species will be required to take up the responsibility and find some solutions for it and these solutions might not be to our liking!

First Crush – #Tiniature

How do you react when your school going kid, tells you that they love someone? Keeping a delicate balance and explaining that it’s normal to feel like that but it’s important to not evade personal spaces. This is an important topic that needs a separate post, which I will write soon, however here is a fun take on this scenario.

First crush

Tiniature – Life of a hacker


Indian Bloggers

 

Gayatri Gadre has started a series called #Tiniature that will run the whole of July! You write one tiny story everyday on Twitter. Though I joined in late, this is my entry for it. You can read what other’s wrote by following the #Tiniature on Twitter.

Ethical hacker tiny story

A tiny story about how the world just perceives what it sees and understands. There are many careers or interests that the larger public might not be aware of, however, that certainly doesn’t mean that those avenues are any less.

Do you know anyone who has chosen a path less trodden?

 

#Tiniature – Twitter Tale

Twitter _tale

Twitter usually evokes mixed reactions. There are few who love it and then there are few who hate it. I think it’s more about finding your tribe. Once you find it, you will love Twitter. The above post kind of sums up my relationship with twitter.