Staying in touch, in the age of nuclear families – A #ThankyouNote

You don’t choose a family, you are born with it! I am not talking about choosing a husband, I am talking about the family that you are born in. Nowadays with nuclear families, we don’t get enough time to know our own first cousins, let alone an extended family! So how do we keep that warmth intact?

I have a pretty decent number of uncles and aunts on both sides of my family, but I was born in a nuclear family as dad had to migrate for his work. So we were too far away from the immediate relatives of both sides of the family. We could only meet them in summer vacations, and that too was usually only 10 days at each place, but I share a great bond with my first cousins and I guess a lot of its credit goes to my parents and uncles and aunts.

A Thankyou Note to family

 

Travel

My parents made sure that we went to our granny’s place every summer. My aunts and uncles co-ordinated their visit to ensure that we kids could meet each other every summer. Now that I am a mom of two, I truly understand the effort that went into ensuring a truly memorable vacation for us. We are talking of an era before the advent of What’s app and mobiles!

Letters

We were introduced to letter writing at a young age. The real romance and beauty of long letters were presented to us, by our parents, who themselves wrote such letters to their parents and families. The blue inland letters carried every detail that an 8 year old could think of – the small mischief, the big tiff, the greatest secret and the occasional salty tears. This tradition continued long after the advent of mobiles. We still have those letters and reading them, still equally sentimental.

Family Albums

Our favourite time-pass was pulling out old family albums and enjoying the entertaining narration that mum gave. This introduced us to a lot of extended family. Even today nothing can beat the flipping of large albums on a sultry afternoon with entertaining tit-bits of information that go with it.

Visiting relatives

I made horrible faces, if I had to visit some long lost cousin of my parents but I had no choice then! It was a rule that we will visit relatives as a family and my parents ensured that it wasn’t more than an hour if we were meeting for the first time. This ensured that I meet a lot of relatives. I love observing people and this was the perfect occasion.

Thanks to the efforts put in by my parents and uncles and aunts, we have a gang of cousins who continue being in touch using the modern communication mediums that we have at our disposal. I truly hope to give a similar environment to my children. A communicating and engaging family is a pillar of strength when life hits you hard.

Linking up with Tina and Amrita for the #AThankYouNote contest all through the month

Why mosquito repellent is a necessity?

Earlier, mosquitoes were slotted in the category of being a pest, a nuisance that one could get rid of using mosquito repellent. Today, however they are seen as carriers of death! The increase in awareness about mosquitoes borne diseases has made us more vigilant, but sadly we don’t realize the importance of products such as repellents till diseases strike close at home.

As any normal family, we used mosquito repellent machines at night in our bedrooms and assumed we were sufficiently protected against mosquito menace. However, it came as a rude shock when my in-laws were detected with Chikungunya. The whole episode left me scared and worried about protecting my family against diseases such as Dengue, Chikungunya and Malaria.

Mosquito Repellent is a necessity today

The information about dengue mosquitoes being active in the daytime scared me even more. I realized just protecting my family at night is not enough! My in-laws go for walks in the morning and in the evenings. Children enjoy being outdoors and my husband travels for work. Everyone had different needs and I wanted a simple solution that provided all round protection. That’s when I came across the happiness protectors of my family – Good knight! They have a range of products that are suitable for various needs of my family.

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Solutions to protect your family

Following the ever increasing cases of Dengue and Chikungunya in Pune, I did a lot of reading to come up with solutions that will help my family lead a normal life, while being protected from mosquito borne diseases. Here are a few tips that we use in our family.

  1. I use mosquito repellant bands and patches when my children go out to school, play areas and their classes. My children loved the patches as they were fun, did not have any repulsive odor nor were obstructive. I was happy that my children could play freely and I could send them without worry.
  2. During travels we use fabric roll on to ensure better protection. Travelling in public transport would mean no control on the surroundings or the places where the vehicle stops. The fabric roll on protects us while being travel friendly
  3. When we host garden parties or have private get-together we use coils. I am not a big fan of Mosquito coils as have a toddler at home, but they are extremely useful when there is a power outage. I only choose low –smoke coils when needed.Goodnight mosquito repellent patch

Tips to get rid of mosquitoes

  1. Keep your surroundings clean. Clean water too can be a breeding ground for mosquitoes. Make sure that there is no stagnant water around you.
  2. If you have water bodies near you, make sure that the water is changed regularly. Aedes aegypti mosquito can breed even in small amounts of water.
  3. Use mosquito nets and screens for your windows and doors.
  4. When going out, use personal protectors like roll-on, bands and patches.
  5. Use mosquito repellents, even during the day time.
  6. Clean the waters in air-conditioners or fridge at regular intervals.
  7. If you live in a society, ensure that there is regular fumigation done in the surrounding areas.
  8. Plant mosquito repellent plants like lemon grass in your terrace gardens.
  9. Some age-old wisdom that can be easily implemented is close all the doors and windows and burn camphor in the house. Camphor too acts as a natural mosquito repellent.

Over to you

Till disease came close, I was oblivious to the mosquito menace. These diseases are not something that one should take lightly as they can easily turn deadly. I chose protection over cure and certainly believe mosquito repellents are a necessity in today’s world. What are your thoughts? Do share in the comments below.

 

Ways to Deal with Online Gaming and Mobile Addiction among Teens – Guest Post


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We all use computers and mobile phones. Sometimes it’s for work, sometimes for fun, but the problem arises when our children start overusing the Internet for online gaming and visiting social networks. Luckily, if you realize your teenager has a problem, there are ways to help them.

Limit the use of technology

Don’t forbid it, because it will only cause them to rebel and they will find a way to go online without you knowing. Instead, limit it so that your child is allowed to spend some time online every day, but be sure you’re in control and you know exactly when your child is playing online games or visiting social media. Talk to your child and explain why it’s important for them not to spend too much time online. Tell them that they would be given a reasonable amount of time for gaming and chatting with their friends online, but encourage them to spend more time with their friends without technology. Suggest social games, teach them how to play cards, Monopoly or Risk and they will soon realize that their computers and phones aren’t the only things they enjoy.

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Include the whole family

Limiting the use of social media alone won’t be enough if you don’t find your child something else to do, too. However, be careful with your choice of activities. Teenagers don’t really want to spend time doing chores. They will usually find excuses not to do them and go online instead, so you need to make the work look like fun. This can easily be achieved if you set a good example and do the chores along with them. If your child sees the whole family cheerfully doing something together, they will perceive it as quality family time. Begin with simple tasks, such as decluttering and tidying things in your home, since that way it’s possible for each family member to participate. Get rid of anything unnecessary, such as old toys or clothes they’ve outgrown. Organize everything in boxes using home gadgets like a label maker and donate it. Be sure to do it together, to create the sense of teamwork. These seemingly simple activities have a positive impact on the whole family. They will not only distract your teenager from social networks and online gaming, but will bring you all closer together.

Spend time outdoors

Find parks or walking tracks near you and go trekking or have a picnic. Spend every weekend outside with your children, go on field trips and show them there’s fun to be had without the use of technology. Go sightseeing. Wherever you live, there has to be something significant or beautiful there that your child hasn’t seen yet. If possible, get your child a dog. Gather your family, go to a shelter together, and choose a dog for adoption. Your child will know that you value their opinion if you let them decide. This will make your teenager happy, teach them about responsibilities and give them a reason to spend more time outside.

Do sports

Find a sport your child likes and have them take it up. It doesn’t even have to be a team sport. Whatever they choose to practice, it will keep them away from their computers and phones. It will also give them the opportunity to meet other children their age and with similar interests, which will probably make them want to spend more time with their peers. Plus, your child will be healthier and happier if they’re physically active. Attend their games, matches or competitions and cheer for them. It will show them you’re proud of them and give them more incentive to keep up what they’re doing.

As parents, our main duty is to do everything we can for our child to be healthy and happy. So, pay attention to your teenager’s habits, be sure to catch the signs of addiction as soon as possible and solve the problems you have together, as a family. And always find time to talk to your child and let them know they always have your support.

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Claire is a personal and professional development expert who believes that a positive attitude is one of the keys to success. You can find her online writing and giving tips about lifestyle and development as a regular contributor at highstylife.com.

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Are all Dad’s Superheroes?

I came across this interesting prompt on Dr.Amrita and DeepaGandhi’s blog asking ‘Do you think all dads are superheroes?’ and it got me thinking, isn’t it true? All normal and sensible men are superheroes in their own right!

Think back to your dad’s, don’t you hold a special place for them in your hearts? I do! For me, my dad gave me the best childhood that I could have asked for. So was he a superhero? Yes! When as a grown-up I realize the trials that my parents must have faced in my growing up years, they certainly are superheroes to me.

Now coming to the other Dad in my life i.e My kiddo’s father. Is he a superhero? I bet he is! When I was expecting, I was a bit fazed with the changes that were happening within me and around me. I wondered if I would be able to manage the responsibility. Frankly, I was blissfully unaware of the all-nighters, feeding struggles, teething issues and the never ending list of challenges that will be thrown my way. It was the same for my husband. However, I realize now, that as I was fazed about the impending motherhood, he was about the impending fatherhood. But from day one, he assured me that we were in this together and he has supported me all along.

All dad's are superheroes

Being a responsible father is no mean task

A responsible father is born the day, a baby is born. The moment he holds the tiny baby, he realizes that now on everything will revolve around this bundle of joy. Be it his career choices, his hobbies or even his television watching habits, everything changes. A father undergoes many changes, just as a mother, but it is seldom talked about.

It’s always baby first

If he is the sole breadwinner in the family, then his economics always revolve around his children and family. He might hate his job, but he won’t just leave it as that would put his family in distress. I have seen many fathers choosing their career paths based on the welfare of their children. Buying something for self will take a backseat and will happen only once all his children’s needs are fulfilled. They might travel far away from homes and live there for long spells, if it offers a good life to their family, all the while pining for dear ones.
All this and more makes Dad’s special. Are they superheroes? I haven’t seen one, but I am sure if there was a superhero, he would closely resemble these many heroes that we encounter in our daily life.

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