Roma is a communication coach and a writer from Pune

Helping others carve a niche in the field of communications

Roma believes she is destiny’s child and loves to embrace life as it comes. She stated off as an engineer and soon found communication and creative writing to be her calling. Today after writing two books, she has started her own communication academy with the intention of giving back and helping students open up and communicate well to reach their full potential.

She comes from a small backward town in Uttar Pradesh . Roma traveled extensively during her growing up years as her father had a transferable job and in later years for her work, spanning eight Indian states and across umpteen number of countries for job related assignments.

Roma is a communication coach and a writer from Pune

How did you decide to start your academy?

It’s a million dollar saying that our experiences in the childhood shape up a significant part of our future. I was five, a grade 1 student, when dad was transferred to Tamil Nadu in the eighties. While I didn’t understand an iota of the particularly tough Tamil language which my class mates and everyone spoke and they didn’t get a word of my Hindi, we managed it with some words of English for a considerable time.

About the same time, as I commenced my journey in elocution on stage as a first grader, I bagged the first prize. What a boost it was to my morale and I basked in the glory. No one taught me the nuances or the voice modulation but I loved leaving no stone unturned to improve upon my previous best and scanned voraciously the limited sources available at that time.

Creative writing and public speaking became my passion. I tried ever genre of it and immersed myself in literature. Listening to world’s best orators gave me a high and I stepped into Shakespeare’s characters in my dreams. Poetry was my all-time favourite and I would scribble on every tiny piece of paper I could grab. I always wanted to write and speak and always yearned to master impeccable communication skills.

Whether it was anchoring for a week long inter college cultural fests or a national debate, I felt honored when I was always considered the first choice. By default the notice boards were adorned in my articles and poems. My communication skills helped me bag my dream jobs which took me round the globe and I was happy writing on and off.

But it was only during my maternity career break that I realized this set of skills was my true calling. I always dreamt of opening a communications academy for one and all where I would aid them overcome their fright of speaking their minds without the slightest fear.

Since my childhood, I have met children and adults who are an ocean of knowledge but find it extremely difficult to put it into words and literally shiver if put on stage. While I cracked the interview the one who groomed me for the answers probably didn’t communicate it that well and so was rejected.

Public speaking undoubtedly is an art which not only enables you to put yourself strongly across the table but also creates a lasting impression on the minds of the listener and same goes for creative writing too. With God’s grace, I materialized this dream of mine and started this academy after working sleeplessly on the modules for several months and still continue to do so. The idea is to teach the basics and nuances as well as the X factor to help them come out of their shells and have a strong foothold wherever and whenever they choose to express themselves.

What is unique about Roma’s academy?

There are quite a few mass com academies currently running in India who groom the students for specific vocations while mine differs from all of them completely for it is not vocation centric but it is individual needs centric. Plus I don’t have an age bar and anyone from six to sixty years and beyond are welcome. The modules I create are meant to bridge the gap in the skill set of an individual which prevents him from expressing his intellect in front of a set of strangers or a crowd. Students are trained in batches as well as individually, as need be, on professional microphones, pseudo stages and in real time simulation case studies in a fun way so that it becomes a way of life for them over a period of time and the fear just melts away and vanished forever.

We made very humble beginnings with just the basic infrastructure in this academy and kept the fees nominal to give it maximum reach and accessibility to one and all. We envision expanding our services and offer certified courses in due course of time.

What benefits will students derive from doing a communications course?

A communications course helps a student express himself at the right place in the right way without the slightest fear. Additionally it liberates him of the inertia that holds him back as we render to him a new inertia which forces him to not only express but express smarter and smarter with regular practice sessions.

What is your advice to parents?

I would urge parents of young kids to motivate the precious pieces of their hearts to express themselves as much as possible. Let them participate in everything so that the inhibitions to face a crowd or strangers take a backseat early on. Early exposure and strong communication skills makes a child smart and wise. It is also vital to his safety these days. Do ponder!

Connect with Roma

You can read her everyday musings on her blog www.trulyyoursroma.com .If you have any queries please feel free to email her at roma.shobhit.sinha@gmail.com

How to listen to your children and how to talk so that they will listen to you

Many parents find it difficult to set up good communication channels with their child. Many parents find that they spend the majority of their time yelling at their child in hopes to change their behavior. When a parent yells over many days, then the child starts to just tune it out. If this is happening in your home or you just want to communicate better with your child, then be sure to follow these tips.

Listening to Your Child

Use your body language to show your child that you are truly listening. Get down to their level so that your eyes can meet on the level.

You need to spend time actively listening to your child. Put down your phone, turn off the television and listen to what they are trying to tell you. Do not think about what you should say to your child, how petty their feelings seem to you or let yourself become distracted by side conversation or the multitude of things that you need to accomplish in the next hour. They will only be little for a short time and right now they need you to be their guide and mentor.

Use your body language to show your child that you are truly listening. Get down to their level so that your eyes can meet on the level. Nod occasionally to show that you are hearing them. Even if you disagree with what they are saying, let them talk until they take a natural break. If you find yourself becoming emotionally involved in a negative way, then take deep breaths allowing your child to continue until they are done talking.

Mimic back to the child what you hear them saying. For example, if they say that “Johnnie is no longer my friend because he threw a toy at me.” Then, repeat what you heard your child say. For example say, ” I hear you telling me that Johnnie threw a toy at you so you know longer want him to be your friend.” Ask your child if your summary is correct.

If there are any points that are unclear to you, ask your child to clarify them. In addition, if you are having trouble figuring out a particular word, then repeat the sentence back to the child word for word. You will benefit from knowing exactly what your child says, and they will benefit from hearing the word said correctly.

As parents, we often want to rush in and fix a situation when all your child wants is to tell you about it. Therefore, after your child has told you about an event, ask them what they want to do about it. If your child wants you to get involved, then he will let you know. Otherwise, ask questions of your child until they have created a responsible game plan that they are willing to follow.

Give your child time to follow the game plan that they have created. Then, ask them about what happened. This lets your child know that you were listening, that you truly care and that you are proud of them for creating a reasonable plan and carrying through with it.

Getting Your Child to Listen to You

 

If you have asked your child to do something and they have failed to do it, then do not repeat yourself at a higher volume as the child will turn you out even more. When possible, pick a time to talk to the child when they are not busy doing something else. Make sure that you never belittle them in front of their friends. Start by getting down on their level, and make sure that you do not begin until you have their full attention.

Keep the message short and to the point. Too many parents dilute the message by using too many words. You are the parent, and you have the right to tell your child what to do as long as you are being reasonable. Make sure to use words that they will understand.

Ask the child if they have any questions about what you told them. Even if you are in a hurry, take the time to answer any questions using words that they will comprehend. Then, ask them to repeat back to you what you have said using their own words. Taking this step helps ensure that they have listened and that they understand what you want them to know or do.

Communicating with children takes time, but they are your main priority. Take the time to communicate with them effectively, and they will take this skill with them through the rest of their lives.

Found this helpful Infographic on Growing Hands on Kids

 pick a time to talk to the child when they are not busy doing something else.

This is a guest post written by Erica Johnson, who writes about parenting and family