You acquire new skills like being a detective and selective listening

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My theme is seven and the series is seven situations unique to a mother of two

The third situation is where you acquire new skills like being a detective!

Yup! If you are a mom of two, you are a part detective. Once the kids grow old enough and learn the art of offering selective information you turn detective. It’s not like they wish to malign the other or have any darker motive; it’s simply the way how they see the situation or problem. The age I am talking about is 6+ years so it isn’t too far away.

mother's are a part detective

Initial Years

Till the younger one can’t figure things out, he is the usual culprit as by then the Child 1 has learned this art and is dying to try it out on someone, so the obvious scapegoat is his/her little sibling. Aren’t they younger? It’s their moral duty to be guinea pigs for all future experiments from older siblings seem to be the thought process. So right from ‘Who spilled the milk?’ to ‘Who latched the door?’ all fingers will point to the younger child and as the younger one is oblivious to this (and too young to argue) things will go smoothly. However, after one or two incidents, the detective in you will arise from his slumber and henceforth every incident will be scrutinized.

Later Years

By now child two will also hone his skills in selective information sharing. In these years, both will come to you with a fight and each will vociferously blame the other for the situation. So if the milk is spilt because the older one came rushing in and pushed the table, Kid 1 will see it as Kid 2’s fault as he didn’t drink it quick enough and is always lazing around and Kid 2 will see it as Kid 1 always runs around the house spoiling/spilling the younger one’s things… so on and so forth, you get the drift.

This is the time when a Mom earns the skills of selective listening. I blame both for their individual shortcomings and get them to clean up together. This helps not being sucked into another debate of ‘you always side with the other’ however be ready for a lot of whining where both discuss and declare that ‘Mom always finds ways to make us work!’ or any other colorful ideas that the children might be nursing on that particular day.

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Post Author: nehagpatwardhan

Neha Tambe is a freelance social media marketer, writer and influencer. I studied mass communication and worked in various capacities spanning from journalism, copywriting to social media marketing. Blogging from the past 4 years. Founder and Owner of

15 thoughts on “You acquire new skills like being a detective and selective listening


    (June 21, 2017 - 12:09 pm)

    Selective Listening – Well noted

    nice read. Thanks for sharing

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    Balaka Basu

    (June 21, 2017 - 12:33 pm)

    Ha ha ha…Detective Mommy..loved the post.


    (June 21, 2017 - 3:59 pm)

    You always side with the other- story of my life!

    Thanks for sharing.


    (June 21, 2017 - 6:30 pm)

    Very true. This does not stop even when they grow in to teens!


    (June 21, 2017 - 8:42 pm)

    lolz that makes us suspected behavior as if we are suffering from mental health 😛 Great read thanks for sharing Bushra


      (June 22, 2017 - 8:00 pm)

      Haha, true Bushra.. My mom used to say raising kids is not easy, I am learning it now :p


    (June 21, 2017 - 9:01 pm)

    Lovely feeling penned down


      (June 22, 2017 - 7:57 pm)

      Thanks Anchal for stopping by

    Kala Ravi

    (June 22, 2017 - 11:03 am)

    You are absolutely bang on Neha! The chief-justice at home a.k.a mummy does have to take on the mantle of detective before passing judgements on who did it! Aww…I miss those wonder years, my kids are now pretty grown up!


      (June 22, 2017 - 7:55 pm)

      Haha, happy to know that you enjoyed it

    kalpana solsi

    (June 22, 2017 - 11:40 am)

    I have a younger brother and we did have fights in childhood. and after reading your post I accuse my mom of selective hearing. a very unique topic chosen by you.


      (June 22, 2017 - 7:55 pm)

      Thanks kalpana for stopping by


    (June 22, 2017 - 8:07 pm)

    Very detailed analysis of such situations Neha- you make me smile with these posts that I normally avoid on account of not reading parenting/children blogs


      (June 22, 2017 - 10:07 pm)

      Thanks Shalini, happy to know that you enjoyed reading

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