Mothers Day- lessons learned from moms

Mothers Day 2020 is definitely unique. It is a time when we are truly counting our blessings and thanking our mom’s for inspiring and preparing us for a situation like lockdown. You might think I am just trying to join the dots here, but just stay with me here, I will clarify it in a moment. For me, mothers day is never just about my mom. It is a celebration of all the women who are motherly for me and who continue to inspire and support me. With 2020 lockdown, as we faced new challenges and experiences I realized how these women were preparing me and how it did leave a huge impact on me.

Mothers- Kal- Aaj aur Kal

My grandmom is from an era where she saw the partition, and the subsequent wars. My mom and MIL is from an era where they saw major outbreaks of plague and cholera in the country. Each of the generation had seen their share of lockdown like situation. The point being that they had been in situations where they had to work with limited resources, restricted movement and limited or no money hence they always insisted on self-reliance. They had learnt their lessons in self-reliance and being content with limited things and the same was passed on to us.

This mother’s day I reflect and thank them for their lessons in self-reliance, contentment, healthy living and emphasis on learning life skills that are extremely helpful in current situations.

Mothers Day- lessons learned from moms

Condescending tone for basic life skills

I had seen this and heard this for quite some time now. Not knowing cooking was shown off as a badge of victory. It was somehow tied to feminism and women’s rights!  I have grown up seeing that cooking is an art just like any other. But it is also a life skill that is important for survival. As kids mom insisted on us learning to cook a simple meal. Her favourite dialogue was “If you have to live on your own, you will at least not die of hunger or blow up all your money on food!”

I get it that not all chores are liked by everyone, my only problem is the condescending tone with which cooking is talked about. Both me and my husband can cook. Hubby is not crazy about cooking, but if I am down in the dumps I can rely on my hubby’s cooking skills to save the day.  I personally can cook well and enjoy cooking. I am not a MasterChef nor have images worthy of having a YouTube channel but my kids are super kicked with my cooking and that is good enough for me.

Similarly other basic skills like cleaning, mopping, washing etc. is looked down upon. There was some kind of sophistication in saying that I have never done any of these chores. These were always named basic skills in our household. Be it a boy or a girl, they had to know these and were expected to do these when the age was right.

It was because of these, that shifting from bai-mode to self-mode was easier for us. I say us, because it was a similar upbringing for my husband as well. Today the whole house has divided chores and all of us do our work so as to not over-burden one person. So while my Instagram does not have images of the house cooking, cleaning or cooking, things are being done smoothly as these things were known and done by all on other days as well albeit not as frequently as now in the lockdown.

Mother’s Fitness mantra for mind and body

Another important lesson that I learnt from my MIL was fitness. She is not someone who runs marathons or obsesses excessively about fitness but she likes being independent and hence ensures that she is active. For someone who is nearing 70’s both my MIL and FIL have been managing the house on their own with no complaints. They ensure that they do light exercise at home daily, eat healthy, read something good and useful daily, and do all their household chores on their own.

Even if I ever feel lazy, talking to MIL gets me out of that mode immediately. If she is doing everything at her age, I have miles to go! She taught me that it is important to understand our physical and mental limitations and work on it constantly so as to stay young at heart and keep anxiety at bay.

On this mother’s day under lockdown, I would like to thank all these moms’s in my life, whose teachings have made my life easier today.

Post Author: nehagpatwardhan

Neha Tambe is a freelance social media marketer, writer and influencer. I studied mass communication and worked in various capacities spanning from journalism, copywriting to social media marketing. Blogging from the past 4 years. Founder and Owner of

18 thoughts on “Mothers Day- lessons learned from moms


    (May 14, 2020 - 5:15 pm)

    Lovely post Neha. “If you have to live on your own, you will at least not die of hunger or blow up all your money on food!” thats exactly my aaji and aai used to tell us. Infant, my aaji taught cooking to my Dad and kaka saying that boys need to know these skills first. Its a wrong thinking that boys don’t have to learn household skills. They are the life skills so learn them. In our place also, they were basic skills, no big deal about it. Reading your post took me back to my time with my aaji.

    Pragnya Mishra

    (May 15, 2020 - 12:27 am)

    Our moms have the pearls of wisdom to share and we learn so much from them. Going with independence and fitness my parents-in-law take it seriously. Every morning they do some stretching before starting the day, I find that commendable.

    Ruchi Verma

    (May 15, 2020 - 1:24 am)

    It’s about daily learning new things from mummy …I just loved the post …You look like your mom and learning from her will sure take you to reach high !!

    Anahita Irani

    (May 15, 2020 - 1:25 pm)

    Happy Mothers Day to all of us. We all need to remember our moms who have made us strong to deal with crisis like these. Let’s all pray we get to meet out Moms soon and give then a big teddy bear hug.

    Mayuri Nidigallu

    (May 15, 2020 - 2:34 pm)

    Such a heartwarming post, Neha. As Teens we have all told ourselves that we will never be like our Moms! Yet, as we grow we find ourselves turning into them. They are truly institutions we should aspire to keep learning from.

    Surbhi prapanna

    (May 16, 2020 - 5:30 am)

    Yes our older generations are so inspirational and we always had lots of good things to learn from them. Ranging from life skills to pay attention on your fitness by doing housework, they are exceptional and I m glad that you had acknowledge their amazing journey on mother’s day occasion.

    Preeti Chauhan

    (May 16, 2020 - 5:35 pm)

    I really enjoyed reading your post and indeed the way our elders with their limited resources ,limited access to education and restricted movement achieved so much is indeed very motivational too .


    (May 16, 2020 - 7:29 pm)

    I’m so glad you wrote about teachings that come from the time of our mothers and grandmothers. Being independent by knowing life skills and being in good health is crucial and we don’t need parenting experts to tell us that. We have such brilliant real life examples!

    Debidutta Mohanty

    (May 16, 2020 - 8:06 pm)

    A lovely post dedicated to your mom and MIL. Absolutely true in mentioning our moms and MIL have inculcated values in us that help us to fight in such pandemic times.


    (May 16, 2020 - 9:37 pm)

    Undoubtedly Neha, we can learn a lot from these ladies and this is such a lovely tribute to them on Mother’s Day.

    Neha Jain

    (May 16, 2020 - 11:16 pm)

    When we be come mothers restart learning everyday and the same way we keep on learning from our mothers do as they have lot of experience


    (May 16, 2020 - 11:43 pm)

    Moms are the inspirations always . And as age passed away we started behaving like our mom automatically . Your post is definitely magical.

    Dr Bushra

    (May 16, 2020 - 11:57 pm)

    Your MAIL is so inspiring and like that she’s a fitness freak that we all should learn from. Indeed mother’s inspired us always

    Judy Morris

    (May 17, 2020 - 2:55 am)

    That is an adorable collage of mommy moments. Truly there are lot of things that once can learn from moms. The physical fitness aspect and the mental strength that they have even I can truly relate to it. Cause my mom living alone is managing all things by herself.


    (May 17, 2020 - 3:53 am)

    That is so beautiful! You have three amazing role models in your life who are independent and strong women. I honestly find all mother’s to be Multi-tasking superwomen!

    MeenalSonal Mathur

    (May 17, 2020 - 7:25 am)

    Loved the post Neha. Yes if we have to be on our own then we should know survival cooking. And yes being active and positive help in older age as well plus if entire house takes responsibility of the work then its a smooth sail for all.

    Prisha Lalwani

    (May 21, 2020 - 4:45 pm)

    My parents in law are also active and believe in staying up and about. In fact they are more quick in reflexes than us. Lovely post 😍

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